My son called from college last night, and I sat down to catch up with him on the past few weeks. Last weekend, he was to attend a social event with his girlfriend put on by her sorority and their partner fraternity. She’d been asking him repeatedly to go to one of these functions but Read More
Category: Self Development
How Self Care Changes When You’re Sober
Yesterday, I was sick enough to take a day off work. My daughter and I both have a rather nasty cough (but not Covid). I texted my dad that I was home and he didn’t need to come let our dogs out, something he does for us since we work and he’s retired and loves Read More
Part Two: Who Am I? Typefinder
In my last post, I discussed Enneagrams, my results, and how this can be a useful tool to identify strengths and weakness. In my journey into self-analysis, I also took the Typefinder Personality Assessment, developed by Myers and Briggs. This assessment has been around since 1962, so most people have heard of it and taken Read More
Part One: Who Am I? Enneagrams
With the new year have come thoughts of what I want to do, and not do, with my days. I’ve built intentions for my mind, body and spirit. In this first week of the year, I am doing pretty well implementing them, but I’ve noticed a lack of focus or a sort of half-heartedness in Read More
Nestled in the Center
Soul is a place, the innermost Russian nesting doll. Anne Lamott, Dusk, Night, Dawn This beautiful line by one of my favorite authors struck me with truth and sent my imagination on a journey. Through the stages and seasons of our lives, our souls remain nestled and protected in the center. Layers accumulate, not reliably Read More
Smoothing the Path
It’s a dark, drizzly day and I am still in a funk. It strikes me, whenever I’m in a funk, how the responses to all my funks in the past was to drink. Now, how do I handle these off days? Gratitude: Even if it might not be my natural go-to when I’m in a Read More
I Still Struggle
I still struggle. Progress isn’t always linear; in fact, sometimes instead of moving forward we stand still, or even backslide. Lately, it feels I’m losing ground. I am still sober and each day is another pace forward on that front. But the rest of it feels tangled and messy. I’ve completely abandoned my discipline when Read More
When We Know Better, We Do Better
In my previous post, I wrote that we are doing the best we can. That observation, put into words by Maya Angelou is important, but so is her follow-up: When we know better, we do better. “But why,” I found myself thinking. I wrote that post because I am delving into the work of Dr. Read More
Doing the Best We Can
“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours.” Gabor Mate, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts Dr. Gabor Mate, whose above mentioned book I am about to dive into, believes that addiction Read More
A Curated Life
The following is guest post I wrote for my friend Barb’s amazing blog, Letitgocoach. I wanted it to live here as well… Happy weekend! Most people make or at least entertain the idea of making some sort of resolution or intention at the beginning of things. Whether it’s a the new year, a birthday, a Read More