There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe I started to subtract blocks of time. To quantify my reality so I could digest it. To justify why I personally, as a mom of divorce and shared custody, am Read More
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Doing the Best We Can
“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours.” Gabor Mate, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts Dr. Gabor Mate, whose above mentioned book I am about to dive into, believes that addiction Read More
A Week of Going and Doing
This last week contained a lot of going for me; more going than I’ve done in a long time. I returned to the classroom, which meant returning to commuting and arriving somewhere on time. A return to dropping my daughter off at school day-care, packing lunches and remembering all the things that enable you to Read More
Holding Patterns
Holding Pattern: 1) The flight path maintained by an aircraft awaiting permission to land. 2) A state of waiting or suspended activity or progress. The world is engaging in different stages of emerging into life again. Some places have their feet still firmly planted in the sand. Others dipping a cautious toe into the water. Read More
Becoming
About two months into my sobriety journey, I came across the following quote from one of my heroes, Brene Brown: “Are you the adult you want your child to become?” Ouch. I immediately winced, the pain, shame and regret from drinking for the entirety of my three children’s lives still haunting my every waking moment. Read More