Yesterday, our school staff had a catered lunch to celebrate one of our co-worker’s 60th birthday. She was just returning from major surgery and mentioned that she can’t do drugs (pain medication) but “gin and tonics helped.” (Many laughs and nods). The conversation that played out among the group had no fewer than half a Read More
Category: Addiction
I Surrender…
The word “surrender” connotes weakness in our culture. We tend to think of it as giving up. Waving the white flag, and therefore, losing. But what if what we have to lose is what’s been doing us harm? What if what we are holding on to, or fighting for, is our destruction in disguise? What Read More
What Keeps me Here
I’ve been thinking about the processes of starting and stopping, sliding and progressing, and even completely falling off the path. While the desire to move forward in a positive direction seems to have been planted somewhere deep inside, motivation is at best a flakey companion. I’ve had periods of time, okay decades, where I felt Read More
Sobriety: Land of the Free, Life of the Brave
We spent my birthday, also the Fourth of July, at the beach. I grew up near the beach but now live about 2.5 hours away, so there are times I only visit the ocean once a year or so. Each time, I am transported to my happy place; a full sensory experience. The waves are Read More
Not Buying What They’re Selling
I celebrate another trip around the sun on the 4th of July; I’ll be 46. The process of me moving through my 40s, what I consider middle age, combined with the experience of me getting sober is causing a lot of reflecting and assessing. It invites me to think about the world I see around Read More
I Know in My Heart
There’s a difference between telling yourself something, and knowing it. My brain, and I venture to guess yours too, offers a steady stream of commentary to either pay attention to, or reject. Thoughts about things I observe, how I feel, what I think I want. Most of it nonsense, really. This is also the commentary Read More
Sobriety: It’s All in Your Head
Lately, I find myself thinking about thinking. How very metacognitive of me. More precisely, I am thinking about how sobriety is largely a change in thinking patterns. Put simply: It’s all in your head. Sobriety is overwhelmingly a mental transformation. In fact, the only physical action involved is non-action, or the act of not ingesting Read More
Recovery Spotlight: Women For Sobriety
A few days ago, I received a warm hug through the mail. My fellow blogger and dear friend Barb, sent me a Rosie Recovery Strong Women Coin to mark by second soberversary. And of course, a lovely card accompanied it, as it wouldn’t be Barb without the little extra. This acknowledgement of the two-year mark Read More
Choosing Me (Rather than Changing Me)
If you follow my blog or even just read it from time to time, you know I consider myself on a wellness journey. This journey began when I stopped drinking and started choosing me. Me over what society expects of me. Me rather than a version of myself crafted by norms and group think. When Read More
Ordinary Miracle
We found our wedding song at the end of the movie, Charlotte’s Web. It’s called “Ordinary Miracle,” and the incomparable Sarah McLachlan sings it. Here are the lyrics: It’s not that unusualWhen everything is beautifulIt’s just another ordinary miracle today The sky knows when it’s time to snowDon’t need to teach a seed to growIt’s Read More