Two and a half years into my sobriety journey, I am learning problems are not often solved permanently. They can manifest from a variety of sources and are not always alleviated by a single solution. In short, if a problem keeps recurring, it is usually a process to be managed. In my first year of Read More
Category: Personal Development
Passions and Motherhood: Is there room for both?
The other day I made a list of the things I do daily, several times a week, and weekly. The list was fairly long. I was feeling overwhelmed, and thought that a list might bring more organization to my life. It also got me thinking about the role of mother that I play in my Read More
Take Your Time
In my last post, I wrote about questioning societal norms and pastimes. About how the message that popular culture, the media and advertising feeds us is that we are incomplete without buying, consuming and accepting what is being peddled to us as members of society. The widely accepted view is that drinking is fun, solves Read More
Not Buying What They’re Selling
I celebrate another trip around the sun on the 4th of July; I’ll be 46. The process of me moving through my 40s, what I consider middle age, combined with the experience of me getting sober is causing a lot of reflecting and assessing. It invites me to think about the world I see around Read More
What’s Your Motivation?
The world is opening up again, and with that comes activities, events and obligations. Enter the busy life. I love this quote by James Clear on crafting your schedule. “Saying no saves you time in the future. Saying yes costs you time in the future. No is like a time credit. You can spend that Read More
I Don’t Need a Day
Mother’s Day is a few days away, and here’s the status: I have yet to hear from my father or sister regarding plans for my mom (the next day is also her birthday), my two sons will be at an out of town volleyball tournament, and my husband’s siblings have invited him (singular) to lunch Read More
Here is Everything
This week, I lived. Living consisted of teaching, being a parent, and a wife. Running a house, helping a friend, caring for my dog. Exercise, dentist appointments, rapid-Covid-19 tests, high school volleyball games, coffee, and books. Riding the wave from sleepy Monday morning, to exhausted Friday afternoon. Nothing life-changing, or earth-shaking, but I’m so glad Read More
The Plain Days
I came across this quote and it whispered to me. I am not on the mountaintop or in the wilderness. I am currently trying to find a rhythm that works for me in the plain days. I am mostly back to my routine with the kids’ school, sports and work, except for more time working Read More
Reconnecting with the World of Wonders: Go Play Outside
I remember spending time outside as child and playing the role of awed observer to the creatures that inhabited that space. My outdoor habitat included my grandparents’ yard with walk-in cages of canaries or peacocks. Ants and pill bugs making their way across a patio composed of cobblestones. Butterflies meandering through the coneflowers and asters, Read More
Sobriety: It’s All in Your Head
Lately, I find myself thinking about thinking. How very metacognitive of me. More precisely, I am thinking about how sobriety is largely a change in thinking patterns. Put simply: It’s all in your head. Sobriety is overwhelmingly a mental transformation. In fact, the only physical action involved is non-action, or the act of not ingesting Read More